What will you be when you grow up?

I envy those who can write or say exactly what they wish to say. As for me, my words fly out of my mouth in some existential, transcendental way...I have no control of, which has nothing to do with how I feel or wanted to communicate. It is usually something entirely different than what I had in mind. The thing is I can't pinpoint my feelings or words, its usually something vague or extraordinary. And by extraordinary I mean nothing of the sort... (case in point btw) but rather something so unwittingly-attractively vague (because I couldn't convey any better) that it "SEEMS" that it MUST be extraordinary! Let me facilitate my point with an example. Very often, as I was growing up, relatives would be curious, "boro hoye ki hote chaash? daktar na baba'r moton engineer?" Now just to play it safe, politically-neutral, avoiding further questions or agony for the both of us in explaining her (it used to be mostly a woman who was o-so-interested in my future) why I think that being a doctor or an engineer is a mundane, uncreative, shoot-me, dead-end of a job for my taste, I would come up with this seemingly fleeting but witty answer, "An old woman. Who can stand erect, preferably." That was nearly ALWAYS my answer to "boro hoye ki hote chaash." And I could come up with this answer after careful deliberation for hours together, and meditating over it for several years in silence and solitude. Yes? Nooooo you daft idiot! That was my answer ONLY and only because my parents chose Telegraph over Statesman, simply because Telegraph had better budget, so colorful pictures, more supplementary readings like Graphiti on Sundays with the Survival Strategy column where midlife crisis guys, and desperate house wives and growing teenagers had wonderfully screwed up lives of sex, drugs, abuse, accuse, girlfriend-ran-off-with-my-petdog-Tommy-who-was-biting-my-wallet kind of troubled lives, and TeleKids on Thursdays. I researched (ahem) my answer once in a TeleKids jokes section. Thus, I had invested no amount of my intellect, which was always at a vanishing-point anyway, to come up with that answer. And since the answer gave out none of the expected, daktar, engineer, lawyer, teacher, fashion designer, interior decorator, baby-sitter, gardener (pati mali), barir-bou, realtor or the simple truth-- 'something with Minimum work, irregular hours, and maximum pay' or some such they interpreted my answer to be, "khoob philosophical! khub bhabuk meye. bah bah!" Thus, thanks to TeleKids and my decidedly undecided future I was deemed to be a Philosopher-in-the-making (not to mention an indifferent, lazy ass bum But who knew THAT!) in the matter of a minute of meaningless interrogation. Thus my plagiarized-vagueness elevated to extra ordinariness. See my point? Or don't see my point? Either way it proves my point. Coming back to my ineptness in writing or saying the right words... Not inspiring is it, coming from someone who aspires to be a full-time writer in the distant future. Yet again I throw in a few extra pounds more of distance in my shopping cart for Time before I start taking my life seriously or at least pretend to ponder about the job market. Humor me for a minute. Say there was this take out shop for Career. Like one of our own Wendy's or Starbucks where you could order your career just the way you want. Can I have a Career to go, with extra-Time, dework, nonfat (why not), nonstress with side orders of Name, Fame, and "soups" of Money... please :) "That will me $ Dream and run-to-a-shrink Cents Sir!" Next in line?

Flying Frights

i must write on some of the funny incidents that fall into my lap ever so often. this time en route to India. so here i am, fetching my little isle seat...and waiting for the poor soul who must occupy the seat next to mine. i pity him already. i tend to use the neighbor's shoulder as a personal favor. hence, i also know i would invariably have him/her blotted with "little drops of cloud" from a passionate sleep... also known as "Drool". well, people are born with strengths, weaknesses, traumas, phobias, two heads, psychotic mothers... i however, am born with a mouth that opens during sleep. (no. no. no. that doesnt mean i dont open my mouth at other times). But to my dismay I realize that I am not the only one who will drool that night. In a moment this 23 year old, sweatpants wearing, uncombed, unshaven, unkempt, dishevelled, my-socks-dont-match geek comes and sits next to me..."please dont mind if my head falls on your shoulder"! aaa...HULLO! what makes you think i wont mind? a friendly reminder-- Dont Even Think About It! In reply however, I give a wry smile and say, "I have the same problem". His radder immediately catches the warning. And he politely shifts a little to the other side of his seat. worked. yess! why that was easy! And because everything has good and bad sides to it, it dawns on me that there goes MY head rest! 'Nice job bimbo' i curse myself.
So in the middle of the night, while i am trying to sleep erect, there is a cankerous outburst of man-cries. the man in question is occupying the seat two rows behind me. he is shouting at another man in Punjabi dialect. I dont understand a word of what he says, which is amazing...because people usually intersperses English words while talking in any other language. however, he is speaking in pure, unbridled, uncontaminated, perfectly distilled Punjabi! That made MY understanding of the situation extremely impure. this "gentleman"... though rite now far from credibility... is loudly questioning the gentility of this other man...who looks somewhat baffled at what seems to me, accusations against him. maybe even he doesnt understand what he is being charged with...and stands there like Forrest Gump on sedatives. the air hostesses, busboys are all gathered around us. But the man who is doing all the shouting is relentless... he is a man of words alrite! I am still staring at them all... trying to...I donno... lip read...face read? It appears to me as if I am the only one not following what's going on. math-class-syndrome-all over again. Suddenly one of the pilots arrive. Why does the pilot have to be here? Who is driving? Is this like a national threat? Profound questions wizz pass my head. Anyway, so they are all trying to extricate the two men away from each other. more and more people are overcrowding this area. the feud is turning out to be a mutiny. And then suddenly the angry man attacks...he plunges forward...and gives a firm blow at him! and within two feet of each other... he misses!!! what are the chances! he is even more angry now. the cabin crew is pushing the other man away from the site of action. what is funny is that this man is making no defence. He is like, 'bring it on'! ok, so the angry guy now throws a shoe at him--and in its flight--it bangs on MY head, ricochets, and falls in the lap of the white American veteran sitting just behind me. Now it helps to clarify that this was flight Air India, and the Indians always take a few precautionary notches of care for the white folks. So as soon as the shoe landed on this white man's lap, the air hostesses rose to the occasion, leaping forward, like Michael Jordan on an underpaid mission, scooped the shoe out from the white man's lap--and was "colonially" apologetic! Nobody even noticed that the shoe made contact with MY head!
Anyway, after long the fury subsides, people take their seats again. my sleep, with its drool have all dried up. and now for the final part, the formerly angry man is asleep... but snorting like an erupting volcano (his lips make an Angelina Jolie-like protrusion, making extensive vibrations and shooting out lava-like saliva) say on a 4th of July evening! like a nuclear weapon being tested amidst flurrying crackers..! In obvious fright of the demonic snore, all the babies in the flight start crying aloud at precisely the same instant...as if the furious man with the fatal snore is their choir-master. A remake of The Sound and the Fury, i tell ya

Confession

there is a guy who takes the same train as i do. he has a body to die for. both men and women can die for this body. for different reasons of course... So well, with his perfect lil tight, round touche, he stands in front of me. and as much as i admire this legendary butt, it was a wee bit, very wee bit- must clarify, on my way. let me give u the latitudes. well, i am sitting on the platform. and he is standing. so pictographically, his ass is literally in my face. not that i mind. but others do, because others need to find space to stand in this very crowded platform. now for me to get up, there is a very high probability that while i (regretfully) try to stand up and make room for others, sacrificing this rather spectacular sight, some part of my head... can...ahem... accidently... touch his artistic butt in my motion up. very unintentionally. (if intentionally, i have something else in mind).so anyway, when trying to contemplate what i should do, to avoid all kinds of potential embaressments, a woman cries out really loud "HEY!!" (she later turns out to be a friend). so at her startling little screach, the guy turns around... ahem.. and at that very second, my friend, in the hope to tap my head, manages to push it instead, and so... now o well.. (lemme just get it over with) my face bounces off his balls!

Conversation Overheard. (not too precisely tho)

Guy A: my mom has a gun, my grandmother has a gun. my grandfather left me SEVEN guns!

Guy B: Seven Guns? what for? A new business idea or something?

Guy A: (laughs). Naah. I guess guns are cheaper presents. Everybody has a gun in Texas.

Guy B: So like on your birthday your grandfather wishes you at gunpoint! That just explains so much about you!
Well... have you used any?

Guy A: that's the funny part actually. i don't even know how to use a gun. I mean I haven't tried. I figured you know if I... you know start shooting and stuff then I might just do it at random. so it's good not to know how to use a gun. It's not like its very hard or anything.

Guy B: O my God! Are you serious? You have SEVEN guns and you can't use any! What do you do with them man! Rent them or something?

Guy A: (laughs) Naah... It's just...

Guy B: O yes! How can you rent them! If you ask them for the rent, BOOM your head blows off!

Guy A: (laughs) But you know it's cool to hang around with a gun in your pocket. Not in Texas though, over there even a nanny carries a gun! But here in New York you know. People start to respect you and stuff.

Guy B: So what's your pick up line? "Hi! I am Josh. Nice to meet you. I have a gun. Seven guns actually. Can I buy you a drink?"

Cockroach crisis

bird watching, dog walking, baby sitting but why no cockroach watching, eh? you know it can be just as engaging as the rest. try it. for example me, i was watching this tiny cockroach, well not so tiny- say, adolescent cockroach- delicately crawl on the edge between the floor and the bathtub. the poor thing sat nibbling presumably another poorer thing. then i intervene its little feast. i run my index finger one feet above the roach, creating a majestic little scary shadow for it, which is following its tiny little foot steps. it was fun, watching such a puny little insect distressed by a giant little me. i am a sadist. also, as u can very well infer, have no life! anyway, so i wave my index finger above it, following horizontally, wherever it moves. the roach is sensing an imminent death knell. hopefully. so after wiggly-waggly-woo, it stops moving. stoned. now i am confused. i could not have killed it from a feet high. and i possess no laser powers. what happened? but the roach sits so still, silently. i mean still. just still. it cant shout. can it? well whatever. but here it is. unmoving. did i give it a heart attack? then i wasn't sure if they have a heart. so now i bring my finger a few inches nearer to the roach. and then i distinctly see the bastard quiver. i am very angry now. it wanted to fool me! how dare it! i am angry. should i kill it, or should i just follow along the lines of non violence? i was so close to a real "to be or not to be" dilemma. here's my Claudius cockroach... but I hear the roach scream "run, run, run while she plays Hamletta! yo Dirty Mary, when u shoot u shoot...don't talk!"

ambitious marriage

not that i hate married life. i have a lot of respect towards all the married people in the world. its just that i dont have any respect for myself as a married woman, because most often i am convinced that i am doing it all wrong, and not following the "rule book" at all. you see, all my life i have been a non-conformist. not really because i wanted to. it didn't help. my *** hated me for that, later my *** hated me too... and by the time i left India, practically everyone joined the club. so i left the country. because it was getting stale, soiled, and i was losing my mind. which is not always the best "things" to lose. a purse is a safer choice instead. so one fine day, i decided out of the blue that i wud go to USA. and i convinced dad to buy me a ticket. ** hated me her all-time-high during that period. so i figured, it has started to pay off already. so i landed in USA. and then i find myself engaged in the first 4 months of my stay, because let me be honest, i was bored that summer. and needed an interesting turn of events to cheer me up. naturally now, it dawns upon me that it was all a curse of my experimental days, frankly put-- my foolish foolish days, when i couldn't be any more stupider and unwise and unthoughtful. i am pretty sure i have used up the entire quota of my foolishness allowed in this life. so beware of me from now on. i am gonna be smart as hell for the rest of my life!
post marriage, ever so often i am jolted with an avalanche of 'marital responsibilities' which like a loud gong, explodes my ears and head in a bizarre cacophony. it feels like Jim Carry in "Bruce Almighty" when he wakes up at the sound of million voices in his head, the whole bunch of whining humanity, asking for favors out of God. well, mine is not nearly as dramatic as that, but you see my point. or so i hope.

why does people, and by people i mean some very particular individuals i know, keep saying that if you are very ambitious you shouldn't have married. yes i shouldn't have married. but that could be a separate, independent thought by itself. becoz of how inanely inept i am for all the "marriage-life-rules" and some family politics and politricks u shud be aware of to steer clear of family gossip. but why is "ambition" such a doting enemy of marriage, i dont get it. they make it sound like anybody who is ambitious and successful, were all smart enough to not marry. aye aye... its a vicious circle. its not like the legitimate, "u are bad in math, so you should stay away from science". instead they make it sound like, if u are bad in math, you should stay away from all technology. so go fetch water from the well to take a bath. no using the shower. and using a computer is out of the question! if u need to know anything, just keep your eyes and ears open for aural history to pass on u. thats how our ancestors became learned men.
but here i am, expecting to see my so-called "ambitions" getting realized, along with making my marriage a success. u see, i am ambitious about my marriage as well. i tell ya again, its a vicious circle.
anyway, had i just lived with Raja, and none of our families hovered around us, and it was a perfect world, things would have been so much easier. and i cud be a hippie like i was. every now and then i miss the Golden Age. i MUST have had a life back then. or else why this nostalgia?

joker joker in the hall who is the funniest of them all

my blog is becoming like a joker's life (no not the Heath Ledger kind or any of the other batman's joker) but more like raj kapoor's "mere naam joker" concept. my readers, if there are any, by now know that the whole idea of writing this blog is to make it funny. a lot of people, like myself, lack humor in their lives. and all that my blog attempts to do is add a little smile in your life. thats all. Because sometimes, life can be very boring. no bad days to whine about. no good days to boast about. And most of the time people dont like to admit they had a good day, even if they did. They presume, others mite think u have an easy job, or easy life, or eating out of your dad's money or ex-husband's alimony. So generally, i think people feel safer to say "work sucked. such a stressful day!" etc. However, i think people truly neither have many good days nor many bad days, they just have boring days. the same day you see everyday. and my blog comes here. to make your Today, a little funny or a little aggravated like either "hehehe" or "sheesh...look how hard she's trying to be funny...". Of course it helps infinitely more, for both you and me, if its the former case than the latter.
thus, in my blog u will never find high philosophy or grave politics, and surprisingly not much of emotional rants either (though i mite have come real close to doing that in some of my posts). there is nothing serious, erudite, intellectual or even pseudo-intellectual going on in my blog. its a very simple, under-fashioned blog without ANY underlying meaning or all that jazz. just the talk of everyday says and everyday ways. with a touch of humor to it. however if u have never found anything even vaguely funny reading it, then well...i am certainly not laughing knowing that!
so thats all about my blog, hackneyed and trivial. just hoping that u will find something in there to smile or laugh about. And perhaps on a sad, lonely, cranky day once in a while, you might remember my blog in the hope of finding a moment's smile. (and NOT the "i'm smiling- in-the-inside kind". Just old fashioned heeeee :) or hahaha)
but yeah, today is one such day, when the joker needs a laugh. badly. and i'm running out of happy or funny things to say. besides i am tired of laughing at my own jokes. how pathetic is that! u know, in theaters, in the comedy plays, there are actually some people sitting among the audience, who are part of the show. u know what part they play? to watch if u are farting or not! naah. But they are there to provoke laughter. say there is such a scene which the director or the playwright is sure as hell that it is funny, but just in case his audience had had a bad day becoz per se he/she is returning from paying the alimony or meeting the mother-in-law or just paid taxes or some such contingency, and thus just not in the mood to laugh but had to come since he paid for the ticket, the director anticipating such mishaps in people's lives, implants among the audience some of his crew members, and instructs them to start a laugh in each of those "seriously" funny moments if they go unnoticed. hearing these laughters, the unhappy ones join in. the "emperor's-new-clothes" concept. ('only people who are intelligent will get the humor')
so next time, watch out for who is making you laugh. the actor on the stage, or the actor off the stage, the actor among you. But hey! join in anyway. You wouldn't want to be the only "intelligent" one finding it NOT-FUNNY;)